I really struggle with this! When I don't have the energy to get out for whatever reason, I feel like I have to like... revisit my WHOLE IDENTITY. It's ridiculous. I basically moved out west and bought an additional condo to make skiing easier, but when I don't feel like going I'm immediately all WHAT IF I'M NOT REALLY A SKIER????
I went through this in a really terrible way after so many knee surgeries and having periods where it just hurt too bad to ski. Not skiing and biking when those are the things I used to define myself for so so long? It's how I met my husband. It's why we moved here. It was mentally traumatic. And while rehabbing I got really into yoga and took a yoga teacher training class. We were going around the room introducing ourselves and I said I was a mountain biker and skier and the teacher said no. No you're not. Those are things you like to do they are not who you are. And at the time I was like NO THOSE THINGS ARE WHO I AM! I was so wrapped up in making those things my whole identity that I couldn't fathom who I was if they weren't at the center of my life. And it was really good therapy for me to realize that she was right. I can ski or not ski and still be me (even if it's not skiing because I just don't feel like it.) And I definitely don't have to sit in the truck sobbing on days where my knees hurt too bad to ski more than a run or two, having an existential crisis on top of the physical pain. Thankfully that has improved, but that happened more times than I care to remember.
Don't get me wrong - if you are in a place where that's what you want to do, to define your whole existence as "SKIER!", just know that if you wind up in a place (mentally, physically, financially, whatever) where you can't be that person... it's okay. Even, if you just don't feel like skiing today, or in crappy weather, or when it's too cold, it's okay. You can even find other things in your life that bring you joy. The joy from skiing is marvelous, but it's terrible when you get hung up on thinking it's the only good thing in your life.
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