Hi
@Sbono9599 - I have really wide calves, and I want to share my experience with you because I kjnow it can get very frustrating. The most important thing is, as
@Jilly said - find a good bootfitter. First of all, where do you live? Likely someone on this forum will be able to direct you to a great person.
I can also share my experience with you - largely to reassure you that a good bootfitter can make a boot fit to calves, it is about finding the right fit in other places first.
I have a pretty large calf - very similar to your size - and, when I started skiing, I decided I needed new boots because rental boots were so bad for my calves and painful. I went to my bootfitter and, at the time, after trying on a number of boots, we settled on the Atomic Livefits - mostly to accommodate my calf. At first they felt fine, but after a season, when the liner had packed out, they were WAY too big for my foot. The livefits were made for wide feet. My feet are pretty average, but I just have large calves. The more advanced a skier I became, the bigger the problem the Livefits were becoming. For me, the biggest lesson has been not to get distracted by the wider calf. Many boots can be tricked out at the top to accommodate a wider calf, especially if the cuff is lower - but even that is not a deal breaker.
I know this may be redundant with a number of other threads, but I'll share here what my current bootfitter told me, especially for women with wide calves, in terms of getting a good fit. He said that when you fit a boot: first fit instep, then toe length, then heel snugness then calf. The instep is one of the things that is the least able to be changed on a boot, so whether you have a high or a low instep will matter the most. Then length - your toes should be touching the front on the boot, but not smashed in front. When you lean forward, flex the boot, the toes should pull back and your heel should sit snuggly in the back. Then you look at the heel snugness, then the calf diameter is the last thing.
With a wide calf, a boot fitter might want to put you in a wide boot. This happened to me multiple times. My first ski boot, as I mentioned, was an Atomic Live fit in a 27. I didn't realize it at the time because my calf felt so much relief compared to the rental boots, but the boot was way too wide and way too big for me. Now, I'm in an Atomic Hawx Magna in a 26 and I love them. But I wouldn't have known that I would love them when I first tried them because they were nowhere near being able to be buckled up. I had to trust my bootfitter.
I've tried on many boots with my calves, and will say that the Livefit is great for people with a wide foot (106mm last) and a high instep. The Dalbello Kyra 95s (100 mm last I think) are also a great option for a wide calf, but a lower instep. The Hawx are kind of a happy medium (102 mm last). They fit my higher instep, but not so wide foot, and the whole calf area has been adjusted to fit with some cutting, flaring and moving of buckles. I also had one toe that consistently kept hitting the front (on my left boot), but my bootfitter just punched out that area and it's fine now.
So basically, the trick is to find a good boot fitter, and don't let anybody tell you that the calf is the part of your foot that is the most important to fit first. If a bootfitter looks to get a boot to fit your calf first, run away - those are the bootfitters I've had bad experiences with. Get the foot part right (instep, length, heel) that is what you need to make good contact with your ski. Then work on the calf part. A good boot fitter will know how to make the calf part work.