Exactly: me, too. If people near me are not interested in convo, I don't impose; just busy myself with the phone or chat with the bartender. Generally my age and appearance (Let's say "down to earth" or "not trying"
) means that there's no pick-upy subtext to any convo. (Also, if there
were subtext, I'm too oblivious to notice it). It's just so weird those rare occasions when someone wants to connect beyond bar chat, for whatever reason. I've spent a lifetime being the plain, quiet friend amongst more attractive and outgoing girlfriends, so I'm just used to not being noticed. Honestly, the bartender recently called my drink the other day before I'd sat down and I was stunned that she even remembered that I'd ever been there.