A younger friend and I were discussing (ahem) the unfortunate fact that it's no longer acceptable to have a martini at lunch during work. (It was a rough day, okay?) This led to a discussion about Mad Men and my intolerance of the sexism on that show. It just isn't fun or enjoyable; I cringe when I try to watch it. (My full disclosure - I grew up with that sh*t. Age 63 now.)
My 40-something friend said that in her experience, all people she knows in my generation can't tolerate Mad Men. Her father, in particular, cringes at his own history of sexism and just can't enjoy it.
The sexist behavior in that show was a reality in my childhood and adolescence, and was just beginning to change in my years after college. Yet when I see it on TV, it's foreign and bizarre. And horrifying. We still have far to go. Too many judges blaming women and excusing men for rape. Too much domestic violence blamed on the victim. Too few women in power - corporate, government, or otherwise. I could go on.
I can only try to put myself in the position of African-American, or other racial, ethnic, or religious minorities. Despite the sexism I grew up with, I'm in a very privileged position - inherited, not earned. I had a first-class education, and got a Ph.D. I have a professional job. Sure, I am quite capable. But much of this came to me through an accident of birth. I can take up skiing and feel reasonably welcomed on the slopes, and downright encouraged by most people I encounter. Nobody stares at me as though I'm an outsider. I can afford the lift tickets, equipment, endless purchases of various layers, and all the gasoline. I am privileged, and very lucky.