surfsnowgirl
Banned
My office christmas party was tonight and oh how I hate these things. I am frighteningly shy and social gatherings/migle fests are my worst nightmare. Its much better now for me at my company because I have been there for going on 3 years buy oy vey. All our social gatherings are not seated dinners and such but are just open rooms and what I like to call mingle fests.
Its very strange to me because I lived in SoCal for 15 years and just about all my friends in Cali are people with whom I have worked over the years. When I am in my work element I am very comfortable, at least in Cali and social gathers and happy hours were very prevalent and fun. Here in CT its much more of a nightmare for me. I kind of feel like I am swimming up stream fighting my way through. After 2 complete years here I finally feel comfortable with my work folk where these social gatherings are "sorta" fun but its still not without moments of standing around going ok who do I talk to next. Maybe its similar with others and I just don't know of their struggles but I am so glad I am home.
We have our company annual meeting in february and I am not really dreading it as much because I know people now and feel more comfortable but I still have this social anxiety high school feeling that comes over me whenever I am in a mingle type of situation.
I was so socially awkward in junior and high school school and was picked on a lot and I'm trying to shake it loose but sometimes i just feel like that uncool kid when put in a social situation. I think I am cool and my friends like me (I think lol ) but theses things are just terrifying to me and remind me of junior high/high school.
I was wondering if others go through this and if so what their coping mechanism is.
Its very strange to me because I lived in SoCal for 15 years and just about all my friends in Cali are people with whom I have worked over the years. When I am in my work element I am very comfortable, at least in Cali and social gathers and happy hours were very prevalent and fun. Here in CT its much more of a nightmare for me. I kind of feel like I am swimming up stream fighting my way through. After 2 complete years here I finally feel comfortable with my work folk where these social gatherings are "sorta" fun but its still not without moments of standing around going ok who do I talk to next. Maybe its similar with others and I just don't know of their struggles but I am so glad I am home.
We have our company annual meeting in february and I am not really dreading it as much because I know people now and feel more comfortable but I still have this social anxiety high school feeling that comes over me whenever I am in a mingle type of situation.
I was so socially awkward in junior and high school school and was picked on a lot and I'm trying to shake it loose but sometimes i just feel like that uncool kid when put in a social situation. I think I am cool and my friends like me (I think lol ) but theses things are just terrifying to me and remind me of junior high/high school.
I was wondering if others go through this and if so what their coping mechanism is.