Hi Canadianjem,
No, your husband is not right. Learning to ski crud is a challenge. My husband also tells me my legs are not in shape, and to "point and shoot". Sometimes I feel like removing one of my skis and whacking him in the head with it. Pointing and shooting through conditions you are not comfortable with is never a good idea...but you know that already. Skiing all different conditions comes with experience, lessons, and time on the hill. As you progress in your skiing, you will also start to notice how your equipment feels in different conditions-and what a difference the type of ski you are on, boot fit, etc. can make, too. You may decide you need a different ski that works in crud better for you. I have gotten pretty good in crud, but I freak in any kind of ice or hardpack condition...I just can't stand it. I tense up, ski great big "Z" turns, skid across the trail feeling as if I am not in good control, and generally just fight myself. I always feel like the trail is skiing me rather than me skiing the trail..I don't have anything to dig my edge into. I feel like I can't keep my speed at a comfortable level...I don't like to ski super fast. It is exhausting. I used to do that with crud. I fought myself alot. Now I love it. You'll get there. It's scary to feel as if you are being thrown around, and can't turn when and where you want to.
My advice is to continue "not" listening to your husband.... I usually do better when it comes to skiing by not listening to mine, LOL!!