Skier31
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I'm late to this thread ( I have had a very busy July) but read through all of it and found it validating. Part of the reason I have had such a my busy month was due to having to move my 89 year old father from NY to California. He had been living on his own, fell and couldn't manage in his house anymore. The maddening thing is he has not de-cluttered at all. He has always been a pack rat and now with his dementia he has moved into a full fledged hoarder. My brother and I spent close to 5 days just clearing the walkways of the house. It's absolutely overwhelming. I am totally the opposite and am constantly getting rid of things we don't use via craigslist, ebay family or my local buy nothing group. The problem with my Dads house if I could probably spend a year cleaning it out in the way I want - having every usable thing go to where it may be used. In the end we will probably hire a clearing service to empty it but we have to take some time to go through and get out whatever we want. Ugh.
So sorry, Jill. It is very difficult on so many levels. It is hard enough to see your parents struggling to live independently and then have to deal with the task of getting rid of things.
I looked at much of the stuff my mom and dad had and realized that some of it could have been used by others and some of it was just trash that took up space making everyday living more difficult in terms of finding things and household cleaning.
Everytime I threw things, that could not be donated or recycled, in the trash, I felt so sad to be dunping stuff into a landfill. It seems so wasteful.