Interesting. I read an article that said studies at two universities indicate that people are the same way with relationships as they are with possessions.This is of course somewhat facetious, but I began to wonder if the same criteria can be applied to people:
"Keep only those friends who bring you joy."
I see a new Marie Kondo book: Declutter Without Divorce - Sparking Joy in your Marriage!
When I cleaned out our house and said I was getting rid of all the useless stuff, my then-DH looked at me and said, "Are you trying to tell me something?"Some days, I think it might be easier to discard the DH and feign ignorance.
I get really irritated with other people’s junk. My DH also has all kinds of stuff from college and books on computer programming from the 1990s. There are boxes of stuff that he took from his mother’s attic. I guess the good thing about this is that there is nothing left to sort in his mother’s place. She hyper organised and the only clutter she had was his. He works from a home office. The rest of the apartment is reasonably civilised but his office is a disaster zone. I’ve mentioned that he needs to sort out his stuff but he just brushes me off. We’re moving in three weeks! We’re moving to a much smaller place and we just won’t have space for it all. It will also slow our move down because it’s much harder to pack. I also resent that one whole room of our apartment is basically uninhabitable and I’ll resent it more in a smaller house. However I also know that I shouldn’t let this bother me. After all I have known him for more than 20 years and he has always been like this so I can hardly expect him to change now. Meanwhile I’ve been clearing out closets and drawers ..... sigh.
Is the Marie Kondo book any good on how to stay tidy and organised? I start out great but it slowly descends into chaos. My saving grace has been moving house every few years because it has forced me to go through stuff.
This is of course somewhat facetious, but I began to wonder if the same criteria can be applied to people:
"Keep only those friends who bring you joy."
One hears a lot about toxic relationships these days, and I can't help feeling that if we applied the Kendo rule to our friends, those toxic people would be avoided.
This is the thing. It does work for me. Unfortunately it doesn’t work for DH, or more accurately, it doesn’t apply because he doesn’t care about mess! I guess that’s just marriage and in our case it balances out over all, so I don’t have much to complain about. However I did decide this morning that I am going to sort through all his clothes because generally he will get rid of stuff if you ask him item by item.Like anything, the method has to work for you.
This is the thing. It does work for me. Unfortunately it doesn’t work for DH, or more accurately, it doesn’t apply because he doesn’t care about mess! I guess that’s just marriage and in our case it balances out over all, so I don’t have much to complain about. However I did decide this morning that I am going to sort through all his clothes because generally he will get rid of stuff if you ask him item by item.
This is the other sign I posted in my house. Just say NO to storage units.*
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*There are times when a storage unit is useful, but putting junk in it because it is cluttering your house is not one of them. In my area, a 10x10 climate controlled unit costs about $150 per month.
After 5 years, the junk that you think you want to save has cost you $9000.
Just my $.02.