Hey,
@SallyCat ...I don't know if this is helpful, take what is and leave the rest!
I started skiing at age 52...my first 2 years were pretty fun, and I was happy with my progress. Year 3, 4 and 5 were quite frustrating for me. I struggled with the right equipment, and I was self taught. I let my SO talk me out of lessons, plus they were expensive. He and his whole family are naturals. They don't take lessons, they don't fuss about equipment or conditions...they just ski and they are very good!
I became bored with the mellow groomers and desired more challenge and freedom with terrain. I put my intermediate plateau ego aside and started asking for one or two things to work on. Last year, it was about staying forward and pressuring the downhill ski. I really didn't work on anything else, but that. My overall control improved, a lot. Towards the end of the season, I started dabbling in some deeper powder...
This year, I am working on rotation in my turns...which makes so much sense. You are going to go wherever your torso is turned towards...so, if you are facing the side of the hill, you will shoot over that way, lol. I am also learning bumps this year (even tho my PT asked me not to).
I cannot do a whole top to bottom run of deep powder and bumps, but I am able to jump over to some of these terrain features and practice it...and enjoy it. I come away from every run with new knowledge. I am able to ski black runs and ice without fear. I could not say that 2 years ago.
Not to side track with my story...but, I can relate to where you are at...learning to ski can be so frustrating! I almost quit in year 3, 4, and 5 because I felt like I was no good. For some reason, I kept with it, and I am so very glad I did.
I think it's like other sports...golf, tennis, etc. It does require many years to become good. Some of us are natural and take to it quickly...others fast track with great instruction. And, then there's me...self taught...an ok athlete, but nothing to brag about. For me, it did require time on the hill...and some gentle instruction from the people I ski with...focusing on one or two things until it clicked. And, venturing into some challenging situations from time to time.
I also want to tell you that you must spend your free time doing what you truly enjoy...it's so darn important...and, if you need to take a break from skiing, well, that's just taking good care of yourself. You impress me as the type of person who is not idle...you seek out activity that provides challenge and fun. There is really so much to do in the great outdoors...skiing is just one of many.
How is snowboarding? I've heard, tho, I have no first hand experience, that it's trickier to learn to snowboarding vs. skiing in the beginning, but skiing has a longer learning curve.