A quick study in differences between approaches is my son (natural athlete) and daughter (very athletic, but also a perfectionist)
Son, gets on skis, is able to somewhat control direction, asks for directions to the black diamond - 1 hour (I did not allow him to go, he was in no way ready)
Daughter (9yo, 70lbs), is rented incorrect (adult) skis, keeps falling and can’t stand up because everything is too heavy - decides she never wants to ski again.
With careful nurture, better equipment and lessons, she is now a comfortable midwest blue skier … but the other day we mentioned maybe taking a trip to ski out west:
son: YEAH!!! Let’s do it, do you think I can do a black diamond?
daughter: nope, can we not go to a big mountain? (even though she loves looking at trail maps for western mountains)
… clearly we will be going somewhere with a ski school, btw… because I find her anxiety stressful. I have my own to deal with.
It’s a study in mindset, in gender typing, in personal style…really everything, right?
Anything requires mindset/skill set/toolset in combination, and the mindset is the foundation of it all.